12 Months Of Being Mum

You came into my life in such a rush that I wasn’t mentally prepared. Yes I may have had my hospital bag packed for a couple of weeks prior, but I was not mentally ready. I had only attended one antenatal class, I didn’t know what to expect with counting contractions, when and how often to feed your newborn, even how to change a nappy.

Winging it, is what I must do best. To be honest I think this is what got me through those contractions, but when it comes to your newborn being place on your chest just moments after arriving into the world, not really knowing what happens next, it was really surreal. I wasn’t really sure what to feel. I didn’t have that gush of love, it was all too soon and didn’t feel real. You didn’t latch on moments after being born although we had lots of lovely skin to skin. I wasn’t sure what was supposed to happened next, made to walk to the shower, whilst they sorted you out. Still wondering why you didn’t latch. Then wheeled round to the ward, where your dad was told to leave after arriving at 6 am and told breakfast would be at 7 am. It was a whirlwind, there I sat on my own for an hour not sleeping, as I really wasn’t sure what I was supposed to be doing. No one really asked me if I was okay in those early hours. I was in shock and it was time to learn how to be your mum.

Breastfeeding didn’t start off well, I soon learned you were jaundiced and too tired to latch on. I spent many hours trying to hand express, which I tell you is hard work trying to catch into a syringe. You needed more than what I was able to produce to try and help with the jaundice, I even got told that my milk supply probably would never be that great with you being prem. But if there was one wish, I wanted to make sure you had the choice. If we didn’t make it, I wanted to know that I tried my hardest. To which I ended up with oversupply! It was hard work in the beginning breastfeeding, you don’t really get the time to enjoy that bond you create, you are just going through the motions and trying to keep those eyes open whilst feeding you in the small hours! But we are still going 12 months later, I never did think we would make it, it’s the only time you sit still (to a certain degree) and I can sneak in those cuddles and smell the top of your head. You are so very precious.

It has been a rollercoaster of emotions over the last 12 months. From frustration when you really wanted to be off on your way but just couldn’t get it right, until one day you did and haven’t stopped since, to worrying that I am doing right by you, do you need more time outside, do you need more interaction with other babies, have you eaten or drank enough….the list goes on. To happiness and love, which I have never felt so strong before.

I used to worry that we don’t have much family or have what I perceive as normal family outings. Grandad is unfortunately not well, he probably will never be how I remember him with me as a child, which is very sad. He would love to take you to all places or to the park to feed the ducks, but we will live in hope that he may want to actually follow through with his words. He loves you very much, but in his own very unique way. But we make a great team you, me, daddy and Caramel. Nana loves you so much and bring her happiness into her life and is looking forward to looking after you when mummy has to go to work. We have exciting times ahead and lots of adventures! But for what we lack in family we make up for in amazing friends, old and new, you have made lots of little friends too, which I know you love spending time with and that makes my heart melt.

I have enjoyed our time together just you and me, being mum but I do also feel I have lost touch of who I am. I don’t have time for hobbies, or much time to go to the gym like I used to, me time means something different now. I feel lonely a lot of the time and I don’t think i am the only mum who feels that way. I love being your mum but I think I need to find Lindsay again. Part of that means going back to work in a few weeks and you starting nursery, this is another hurdle we will have to cross, a new routine, I almost feel like I am waiting to start the Lindsay part of my life again, who is she now, I’m not sure anymore.

Here is to the next 12 months!

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Finding Your New Self

I have had a weird month really with feelings. I really couldn’t put my finger on it. I have had this overwhelming feeling of the blues and wanting to eat my entire body weight in chocolate. I am not sure where it began but I know where it ended…. this week, it’s like I needed this time to allow myself to feel really fed up and miserable to realise what the hell was wrong.

I have been in mourning for my old life. I know this sounds ridiculous! I don’t actually want my old life back, I may have been super fit physically and able to come and go as I please. But I was lonely, it was like I had done what I wanted to achieve with my life up to a certain point and came to a dead end… yet here I am craving that old life back.

I prefer this new life, I have a beautiful daughter and have all the time in the world at the moment to spend with her… but a part of me knows I need to keep myself happy and healthy as I don’t want the black dog to take hold…. or be anything like my dad is with his deep deep depression. So what I can’t go to a gym class at the same time every week, I have to think outside the box and fit it in around my beautiful daughter.

It’s hard adjusting sometimes to becoming a mum. It can be lonely in the other sense that you don’t see anyone to talk to all day for a proper conversation or only have time to make it to a baby class… when really you would love to sit and read a book with a nice cup of coffee…. or wine. But I wouldn’t swap it for my old life, I have things to look forward to in watching my daughter grow and developing.

So from now on I shall stop looking back with my rose tinted glasses and focus on this new life and making it the best I can… this is new and there are no set rules!

Fourth Trimester to Four Months (ch-ch-ch-ch changes)

Well what a whirlwind of emotions it has been. How have we arrived at 17 weeks? How are you now coming up to 13 lb, where has my tiny little newborn gone (singing blink and you’ll miss a beat, keep on of your eyes open at all times). I find myself holding up her first sleep suit hugging it trying to imagine just how tiny she was again.

The worries from earlier weeks make way for different worries as the weeks go by. Things that concerned me like breast feeding in public… who gives a damn what people think I am feeding my baby and she is thriving from this and that is more important than anything else. It felt like breast feeding took all my time up, when in fact now I love spending this special quiet time listening to my baby make these happy contented noises feeding away, who now is more nosey and will try to talk to me with a mouth full of nipple and smile. Those are special moments which I know won’t last forever. Gone are the feeds that take an hour replaced with feeds that only really take ten minutes, the rest of the time is comfort and being close to mummy.

Bella you have changed so much in a very short space of time and you amaze me every day, I can’t wait for our talks whilst I eat my dinner, I look forward to it every evening, sharing those special moments, you telling me about your day in your baby talk, I really don’t know what you are saying, but you look to me as though it is the most important thing and that I am there for you and that is all that matters. Mummy is there for you to help you learn and discover the world around you. I love being your mummy nothing beats this feeling. There have been some sad moments with immunisations crying for five hours and sobbing about your poor little legs, even mummy cried with you as she couldn’t take that pain away but we got through it we always do.

Learning about how you are feeling when you can only tell me through crying, I soon figured out from two months old when you were tired but explaining to you is a different story and the hungry cry with the little anger out bursts you cannot mistake for anything else! With you sleeping through for 11-12 hours, how did that happen, you set your own routine and it works… but bring on these leaps that are coming and see where we end up. Downloading wonder weeks has been a life saver knowing what is happening and why gives me peace of mind!

In the early weeks I got worried that I wasn’t giving you enough stimulation and that we needed to go seek this out the house, when in fact once a week going to rhythm time seems to be enough, you love the lollipop drum and bubbles, you talk throughout the class and don’t look at me once, you are one nosey girl…. or a typical girl?? I knew you would like swimming as you love making a splash (or a poo) in the bath, maybe one week we may try going under water but you seem to get bored towards the end of the lesson, probably prefer to be off swimming by yourself!

I can’t believe how much you have come on in 17 weeks, we don’t see many people often and spend a lot of time just you me, Caramel and daddy when he isn’t at work. I wish Nanny was around more but unfortunately grandad is very poorly and takes up a lot of nanny’s time caring for him. Because he is so poorly I have spent many nights worrying in the dark when I am going to die and everyone around me, things that shouldn’t really be crossing my mind as we are only just starting our life together.

I love you so much it makes my heart ache, I can’t wait to hear your first word, watch you roll, crawl, sit up walk… the list is endless. I am however slightly worried about weaning, but can’t wait to see you discover a whole world of difference senses through taste, hopefully this isn’t until another couple of months, I’m not sure when we will give up breast feeding but when the day comes I will be sad. Your happy smiley face that greats me every morning is something I want to bottle up it makes me feel warm and fuzzy inside. I now know how my mum must feel about me, I love you mum xxxx

Pregnancy to Postpartum Exercise

I have always loved going to the gym since I have been able to on my own at the age of 16. Over the years I have tried many types of exercise but weight lifting is one of those exercises that I feel gives you the quickest gains. Not that it’s all about gains but it’s a major part of it, you burn fat a lot quicker and then hence tone up. You don’t have to lift heavy weights to get the gains either can achieve the same with light weights and more reps… but there is no fun seeing that you can deadlift or squat heavier than the guy standing next to you…

So when you find you are pregnant and being able to deadlift 100 kg you start to think to yourself maybe I should give up lifting heavy weights for now in case something bad happens. I mean I don’t know if that’s what could happen but I just didn’t want to risk it… but when you have got so used to lifting so heavy it’s hard then to train yourself differently as I knew my gains were now going in a different direction. I soon gave up and switched to bodypump until around 25 weeks. I gave up all gym exercises classes then due to the fact my diabetes and stressful job was too much to cope with and being pregnant that I needed to rest, walking my dog was my only exercises, but still this was 3 miles or so.

Bodypump was a great exercise to do whilst pregnant still using all your major muscles without the danger of lifting too heavy, let’s face it your not going to lunge pulse with 60 kg on your back…. unless of course you are plain stupid.

Fast forward to six weeks post labour and I was itching to get back to the gym, a simple yoga class left me aching for days and when I did get back to the weights area i couldn’t bend down to change the babies nappy. With weight training normally you try and beat your last personal best by going heavier, but when you have had a baby and your pelvic floor isn’t what it was but you feel physically able to lift said weight I am left wondering, what the hell am I supposed to be doing.

In the last week I have gone to mum fit classes, which is great for taking your little one with you as there is no crèche at my gym, but then this comes at a cost, some offer nutritional information which is not what I need, I know what’s bad for me I’m not an imbecile. But at the same time it’s absolute madness the classes with all the little ones running or crawling around picking up the station cones or even the dumbbells. I did ache after doing the circuit type class and was lovely to meet other mums, but well am I doing this class because I think it’s the level of exercise I should be doing. I mean I’m not going to go and do a GRIT class anytime soon as I know for a fact doing any type of tuck jump is going to leave a puddle on the floor and my boobs leaking milk for the whole class to have a nice cuppa with. Then I am left feeling guilty thinking what little money I have I should spend it on Bella doing something developmental, I already pay for my gym membership. Oh the feeling of guilt! There are so many mumfit classes that like to rake the money in, I can access a lot of the things they are selling in their package for 65 quid for maybe two classes a week and the extras online or at my own gym where I can access a hell of a lot more…. once again I ask myself am I doing this because I think this is what I should be doing but for today we will do some dynamic yoga…

I mean my pelvic floor is my only problem… but it may be this way forever who knows, let’s just put a Tena lady on and get on with it!

The Fourth Trimester… begins

Since we arrived home from hospital it has been well an experience is all I can say. Learning that me time is no longer for a day but for an hour max… well it helps if you have a partner that understands this otherwise I can see some women never getting any me time. This could be having a bath, reading a book, lying down in a dark room without any interruptions, popping to the shops alone, having your hair done or going to the gym (when you have had your check obviously)…. or whatever you class as self care to keep yourself sane. This is important, I have had lots of meltdowns over the last few weeks, I knew I would it’s not a shock, just well you can’t prepare yourself mentally for something like this. No matter what people say to you!

Arranging to meet up with people is well stressful, I don’t know if it’s any less stressful if you aren’t breast feeding?? As most newborns feed every three hours, by the time you have finished feeding, changed a nappy, got bag ready go you are cutting it fine to the next feed. Then there is the stress of getting your breasts out in front of people… when well you haven’t done this before right!? What do you do? At home people come to visit Bella but I have to go upstairs to go and feed her… not to make it awkward for them, but actually it makes it awkward for me, what do you say, I’m going to feed her now… which basically means I’m going to get my tit out, deal with it. Breast feeding out and about… all I have managed is a walk in the park to end up feeding her once I had got back to the car. I have looked at different breast feeding scarves but well I don’t want to spend 20 quid on something that might not work for us… and going for a walk the amount of times I have felt harassed before I have even got out the door to walk round the block is crazy, having a cry because you feel like you are failing… just keep telling myself this stage won’t last forever? Right?

I love breast feeding my baby like we have a special bond so I would really like to keep it up, I see myself hibernating for six months when summer is here ha! It’s not like we have anything better to do, just hope for nicer warmer days so we can actually get out for a walk!

Another stressful experience is getting your dog used to a new addition to the family, at first caramel ran to her every time she cried or made a funny noise… which is a lot for funny noises anyway. Then sniffing her or trying to get her to play. She has got better over the last couple of weeks and now just wants to play with her toys… another task to overcome! But she now sits under her crib and steals loves from me during the night where we have more time together… poor girl I feel sorry for my furbaby.

Sleep is an interesting thing, people keep telling me I look great and that being a mum obviously suits me… well I have on average five to six hours a night, how can I look fantastic, I feel I look pale but people tell me I have a glow about me… maybe I am being too harsh on myself, as for sleeping in the day I just can’t do it and then getting overtired so when it comes to bed time you actually can’t sleep..l when I say bedtime I obviously have several bed times throughout the night! I have these apps on my phone which tell me where we should be at for this week… I find these hard to figure out as she is six weeks prem and actually hasn’t been doing any of the things it says she should and I don’t understand when she should… I know she is going to be delayed but is it by six weeks as she is here doing things that a baby in a womb wouldn’t be doing… confusing! Then there is the worry of her development, what toys does she need now to help her develop as I said the app tells me to read books with her… she doesn’t focus on me for all that long stupid app and she’s not awake long enough!

Also what makes you a mum? The first time you set eyes on them, the first kiss, the first nappy change, the first time you have to pick a bogie from their nose, breast feeding, bathing, massaging oil into their dry skin, getting shit on from the other side of the room, getting sour sick on you from reflux… the list is endless. All I know is I love my little lady and want her to feel well, loved and secure that she knows we are looking out for her.

It’s amazing all these changes they go through, each day brings something different, I can’t say I love cluster feeds all that much and carpal tunnel is giving me some jip from holding her to feed, which is more awkward now due to sitting her up right with her reflux. But I love watching her develop and kissing her way too much with lots of cuddles. I could almost eat her up!

As for diabetes you can sit in the background where you belong… but you don’t help your erratic behaviour when I already feel tired… hormones don’t help and will only get worse when my first period arrives… oh how I love you!

The Hospital Stay

After Bella arriving at 2.11 am on fifth November we got taken to transitional care around 6 am. When you think you can now rest think again… unless of course you are lucky enough to have your own room. As little Bella was six weeks early we were told to expect to stay in for three to five days depending on her weight loss.

The following 24 hours after labour were a bit achy, mostly my back felt achy from the back contractions, a little sore from stitches, worrying it was going to sting to go toilet, which it never then eating so many grapes so that when you do finally need to go for a number two it won’t feel like you are passing a brick. All the things you worry about but actually aren’t as bad as they seem. One thing that did concern me was the amount I was bleeding… seriously I have never had a period that heavy as that’s what people kept telling me before… that’s abnormal if you bleed that much with every period surely! I am still bleeding now but like the end of a period and that is four weeks later. I will most likely stop and then have a period. The joys of being a woman…

One thing I wanted to know about and kept asking at my appointments before even 34 weeks was breastfeeding… I have never done this before I didn’t even know how often a baby feeds, why couldn’t someone have talked this through with me instead of saying I will refer you to breast feeding team, which never happened. So learning how to hand express colostrum, the stuff you produce before milk comes In was daunting. I only managed 1 ml on day one but it did double each day until day three when my milk came in, which makes you feel like you have been kicked in the tits and look like Pamela Anderson. Getting your breasts out to lots of different health care professionals when trying to get your baby to latch. What I didn’t realise and why would I, my little girl was jaundice (she was bright red to me) and this was why she wasn’t latching on, she was too tired. I don’t think she spent much time awake the whole time we were in… did I even have a baby? Having to set alarms to feed her. Luckily I knew that my baby would be early being diabetic… just not that early so I had brought formula starter packs with me into hospital so was able to feed her. She never had one low blood sugar yay!

Where I stayed in hospital there was only four beds, not all woman had their babies with them as they were on the neonatal ward. You would have thought people would let you rest… I have never felt so ropy in my life. Day zero was no sleep due to being born early hours, breakfast is at 7:30, ward rounds, drug rounds, cleaning duties all start at 8 am, feeding in between, fitting in a shower, the dads and siblings (usually screaming toddlers) allowed to arrive from 9 am, lunch would be at 12 pm, other visitors arrive from 1 pm, more feeding, dinner at 5 pm.. then waiting for the visitors to go at 8-9 pm so you can rest, getting no rest as then it’s ward round, drug round etc from 9 pm… until 12 am if short staffed which unfortunately was mostly the case. Then the normal things that keep you awake the bright lights on the ceiling, how hot it was on the ward for the babies, other screaming babies, someone arriving during the night c sections are the worst, with beeping machines, people throwing up, medical team, a baby that sounds like a plug hole when trying to breathe and then add in an abusive husband. I found myself standing at the exit to the ward at 2 am crying with insanity. I felt like. I had been put in there to be tortured. It’s no wonder women go mad. With nowhere to go, having to eat your meals at your bed, no day room or TV to break the day up. Long days and nights. I was only in for an eight day stretch.

My little Bella ended up with jaundice and ended up on billibed, luckily next to my bedside. She was well otherwise only lost 3% of her Bodyweight. She is a fighter, she was a good size!

A few emotions I felt odd and cried because I wasn’t pregnant anymore… I was uncomfortable at the end why was I crying about this? It seemed to change outside it got cold and to me felt like I had gone in the summer and come out in the winter. I do have to say I am still hot now with all these unbalanced hormones. I sweat so much at night it’s horrendous. Time went so fast but my head felt odd like baby brain to the extreme, just feel like I have been in a coma and the whole world is going by and I am missing things but I don’t care… I am in my own bubble. I do still get tired now I am home but nothing like when I was In hospital.

The body is an amazing thing how it can grow a tiny human and ping back again in no time. Your belly does look like a deflated balloon for the first day or so though, rather odd trying to rub cream into it. My belly is flatter now but the skin is definitely stretched no marks but feels dry no matter how much cream I rub on it!

I didn’t have any of the hospital staff trying to manage my diabetes and left me to get on with it, most were amazed at my Cellnovo pump, as they had never seen one so small.

I can not fault the staff, from domestics, health care assistants, students, midwives, doctors and other health care professionals they were all truly amazing. Working for the NHS myself I understand how tough it can be when short staffed, not getting a break on your 12 hour shift, having to do the jobs of four people, staying over past your shift to write up notes, I felt sorry for these ladies, they did an amazing job and still they were smiling and joking, even though you can see they were tired and wore out. They still had time to as if you were okay and sometimes I had a wobbly and wasn’t but it was thanks to their help and care my baby was safe and healthy.

Introducing The Milk Monster

I suppose we had better start from the beginning… always seems like a good place to start!

Labour

As I said in my previous post I went into labour at 34+5 and she arrived at 34+6. On the day of 34+5 I just knew something was off, I had had period type pains, but gentle pains that I could ignore if I kept myself occupied, i finished moving things back into our own bedroom and checked my hospital bag one final time. On the afternoon I had planned to go cinema to watch bad mums at Christmas, which I did, it wasn’t until driving home my belly felt like it had done a summersault that I knew something was going to happen. I did manage to make it home, where the first of my waters luckily went on the loo…

Whilst Gav was in the middle of cooking dinner I told him we needed to go hospital, I don’t think he realised that she was coming, and asked me if I needed my hospital bags… whilst I packed my last diabetes supplies, insulin from the fridge. I never did get to eat any dinner, strangely I didn’t feel like eating meatballs 🙂

As I was not at term I had to go to triage to be seen… my god what an awful place that is, four plastic chairs with other women clearly in labour most at term, pacing and waiting, it was a full moon and apparently it goes a bit crazy… didn’t see any werewolves though. The only thing separating us from waiting room and triage was a curtain so all you could hear was women crying, monitors with the baby’s heart beat and staff talking about you. At one point within my three hour wait to be seen a woman came in with her husband in his slippers,two children under 4 and a bowl of blood… she didn’t speak English and was quite glad as I didn’t want to know the graphic details of that bowl!

It wasn’t until I informed them that I was getting pains was I then seen, it took three hours from my show for them to increase to the point it felt a bit uncomfortable, there wasn’t any room in triage and luckily I got my own room on the delivery suite…

This is where things get a bit hazy, although I was in hospital from 6:30 pm until 2:11 am it felt like those hours were only one. It felt like I went all so fast! I was hooked up the monitor to check she wasn’t distressed… if anything she was chilled, heart rate great just not moving a great deal, midwife had a good feel to get her moving. But nothing that concerned them as I said heart rate was great.

The doctor examined me at 11 pm to which I was only 2 cm dilated. He told me it could be anything from 12-48 hours until she arrived, he scanned her one more time and her head was engaged. I knew it wouldn’t be that long, I told myself to relax as from my one and only antenatal class the midwife telling us getting stressed will stop your contractions, also pain relief will alter your sensation when needing to push… so I decided to just have paracetamol as I felt a bit hot from the contractions…

I remember looking at the time thinking we will get to the fifth November… number five being my lucky number! So during the next three hours, my waters broke… not sure when or how soon after the doctor came, the contractions made me feel sick, I thought it was because I needed to eat but well trying to eat a ham sandwich was like trying to eat cardboard I just couldn’t. I wasn’t actually sick… I am not really a sickly person and takes a lot for me to be sick… unlike my dad who heaves putting the bins out. I felt lightheaded from the contractions so the only thing that helped was to close my eyes, my waters went sitting on the bed, as I was hooked up I couldn’t move around to ease the pain,it felt like I was sitting in the bath, remember saying oh no they have just gone… panicking if they were clear as for some reason I couldn’t focus to look properly with the pain.

The only thing I could do to get me through the pain was knowing it wasn’t going to last forever, breathing (screaming felt like too much energy, plus I didn’t feel the need to), and tensing my arms with the contractions as I couldn’t move around… bloody monitor! The contractions got worse obviously, I felt these really big contractions where I felt the need to push… this would have been to hours after waters going, I had to do everything to stop myself like clenching your toes together… the midwife checked me over and was very surprised to see the babies head was ready and waiting. She then informed me on my next contraction to push… well my contractions were gentle again in comparison and had now gone to my back… back contractions are useless! I just thought fuck this we need to get you out contractions or no. Pushing a baby out isn’t painful… knowing if they are moving when you are pushing is hard to know… until the head is coming out… that stung a bit! I tried on my back, squatting but the only thing that helped was putting my leg in stirrups.

My little girl came into the world, she screamed on her own, had a beautiful head of black hair, her APGAR was 9 at 1 and 5 minutes, she weighed 2.95 kg and 51 cm in length. She was a really good size for 34+6 but I was pleased she was thriving. She was placed on my chest and I cut the cord… Gav is a bit squeamish! The placenta I couldn’t care less about but had a peek looked erm horrible like a sack and reddy grey. Most importantly her blood sugars were 3.4 mmol… she wasn’t hypo (2.6 mmol is a too low and needs treatment). She stayed on my chest for an hour or so whilst my afterbirth came and I had stitches… that bit was probably worse than pushing a baby out!

I then had four rounds of toast, good old cup of tea and then to have a shower before going to the ward,where we stayed for 8 days.. which I will talk about in another post 🙂

From a diabetes point of view, Gav monitored my Dexcom whilst I was half aware of my surroundings, my sugars were 7-8 throughout the whole labour and only rose to 13 an hour after and stayed around there.

This is the day after… with zero sleep for over 24 hours. My beautiful baby Bella.

Third Trimester… (third the one with the hairy…head)

I am having to write this in retrospect as I had planned to write this on maternity leave… but we didn’t get to maternity leave before my daughter arrived!

Things hadn’t started too bad at the beginning of this trimester, blood sugars were pretty much playing ball, baby was growing normally not getting too big I may have had a few more hypos come week 32 but all in all it seemed to be progressing well. I didn’t feel like I was struggling physically until around week 30, my belly just felt like it was very much in the way, of digesting my food, putting my shoes on, having a bath and drenching the whole bathroom trying to get back out, shaving my legs and generally walking about.

I had given up on the gym, with all the heart burn and sugar generally making it feel worse I just couldn’t be bothered to try and battle dextrose and Gaviscon whilst trying to do body pump. Walking was my only exercise but with my little companion caramel, I still managed a 3-4 k walk on days I wasn’t at work… work was stressful enough that I knew I had to rest. Talking of rest when people say to you make sure you get all the sleep you can now… are either plain stupid or looking for a black eye. First of all have you been pregnant, if so then you should know that kind of thing doesn’t happen in your final trimester, waking up every hour, not being able to sleep due to heart burn or the need to sort things out, worrying that your baby hasn’t got any clothes to fit (glad I went and got smaller sizes!)… oh and throw in a couple of hypos to boot it makes for a perfect nights sleep… if anything I sleep better now with having to wake up every three hours to feed a baby!

I finished work at the end of my 33rd week, with two weeks annual leave planned then maternity to start…. well week 34 came, my baby wasn’t really moving as much as she had been, I got the odd stretch from her… I never did get hands and feet as people said you do when you are towards the end I just got bum and spine, but still these movements were very few. On the Tuesday of that week I had to go to day unit for monitoring, her movements were still few on the monitor but I had been getting tightenings… so the midwife said, all I could feel was the odd twinge in my groin. They scanned me as I have type 1 diabetes to check her growth. My little baby had grown to 6 lb 5… she was measuring big for 34 weeks. I felt devastated that my diabetes had harmed my little one. Even though all my HbA1c had been below 6.1% with the last two trimesters being 5.4%. I just couldn’t have done anymore, but I felt guilty.

The following evening I had upset stomach… I knew this was a sign of labour due to start…but as I had had this a few times through my pregnancy so just pushed the worry to one side, on the Thursday I had a bath and had what I would call the “plug” come away… again I pushed this to one side as reading online it can come away weeks before, Friday my bump felt very low and heavy… Saturday I was worried something may be happening, It was if my period was starting…. I finished moving my clothes from babies room to our new bedroom, made sure my hospital bag was packed… then I had planned to go cinema with my friends which I did on evening to watch Bad Mum’s Christmas… only just made it home before I had what I thought was my waters coming away… off to triage we went.

We never did make it to week 35, my beautiful baby girl arrived at 34+6 days…. as for labour I will save that for another post you lucky lucky people 😉

Second Trimester…. (second the best??)

Well here we are 27 weeks pregnant! When did this happen? The last three months have flew past! I can’t say it has been the easiest but I have been able to enjoy some of it… 

Let’s be honest type 1 diabetes isn’t easy at the best of times, adding in extra stress from work as well as the stress of growing a human it can send you a bit yampy (to non Brummies crazy). From weeks 13-23 blood sugars were still lower than normal and quite frankly easy peasy, my HbA1c came back at 5.4%, I don’t think I have had one that low since I was about 13! The tiredness has been another thing altogether, I wasn’t that tired in the first trimester still going to the gym regularly, but as soon as week 13 came along with headaches, I did wonder what the hell this second trimester bliss people were on about… are you crazy?! Week 19 brought heartburn and that had stayed ever since, I think this baby is going be born with a wig! 

Let’s talk about week 24… well, what the hell happened, blissfully (or rather knackered and stressed) going about my day and bam needing double the amount of insulin for my meals and needing to bolus 45 minutes before acting, quite literally overnight. Now when you have a non hormonal brain you could probably think about this logically, but as I was on the verge of meltdown seeing blood sugars spiking from 5 to 14 and staying there with no matter how many corrections you gave and then crashing big time hours later, worrying about your unborn baby, trying to actually stay awake at your desk, worrying how to stay awake… I mean is that even normal? That I decided enough was enough, after speaking with my DSN she decided that it would be best for both me and baby to take two weeks rest to see if things improve. Well I have to say it did, it took some work but now we are back to hypo city, but I am not stressing so much.

So week 27 let’s see what you are going to bring me by taking me into my third trimester, nesting is trying to start but it’s hard when half of your house is being renovated, the lack of motivation for the gym due to being out of breathe and knackered is in full force, worrying about the most stupid of things, having a meltdown due to there being no cheese for your beans, feeling tired yet going to bed unable to sleep and pints of milk and spoonfuls of gaviscon to ease the never ending heartburn. 

Let’s hope that my sanity stays around for the insulin resistance due in the next three months. Only six working weeks left and can’t I wait to have some calm before the storm! 

Second trimester you have been a good test of my sanity and strength, there have been some awful times but great times seeing my baby grow on ultrasound to seeing my belly kick, punch and move knowing you are safe for now. Love you baby xxxx 

Lindsay Wilson’s Story

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